to me, success will always be measured by my joy. when i check in with myself and ask “do you feel successful in life right now?” i’ve learned that nothing matters more than whether i am filled up with happiness and peace. but what does that really mean? well, i’m a big believer that now one can tell you how to be happy because we are all so darn unique it would be impossible. what lights one person up just won’t do it for another. but deep inside, you know. for me, the inner journey has become the most important part. regardless of what’s going on “out there” it is extremely important to me that my inner workings are pointing towards bliss. i control what i can (i.e. eat good food, drink water, meditate, learn/grow, spend time outside, connect with others) and take everything else as a teacher to further refine what’s going on inside. it’s always a choice, being happy or miserable, but “easier said than done” has never felt so spot on. everyday becomes practice and as time goes on the grooves get deeper and the practice becomes easier. in the past few years “choose joy” was my mantra and i kept coming back to that concept. could i choose joy when things felt like they were falling apart? could i choose joy in moments of struggle? those were the pivotal moments that softened my being. that are teaching me to be less reactive and more accepting. that have shown me that how i feel is a choice. i choose joy
when was the last time you finished something and didn’t have a replacement on hand? when was the last time you ran out of shampoo or rice or dish soap and were really out of it?
what would happen if you stayed in that moment for a day?
i’ve found that since i started actively paring down every day i get extreme satisfaction out of the last time i use something and am able to toss the empty bottle in the recycling and be without for a moment. it’s an interesting moment, questions like “do i need to replace this item?” come to mind or “do i have something alternative that might fill it’s place?”.
it’s a space we don’t often occupy.
maybe we already have a new one in the storage closet or cabinet. maybe we run to the store so quickly we barely notice those minutes of “without” and don’t have a chance to ponder the item’s value in our life.
the next time you get near the end of a certain item’s life i invite you to slow down. use the last drop or cupful and then live without for a few days. maybe weeks depending on the item. feel the emptiness and examine it. do you miss having this thing around? is your life harder without it? does the desire for it fade after a few days leaving you with a satisfying clarity?
give it a shot. resourcefulness is a powerful feeling.
the neighbors wind chimes
a community of support
our charming kitchen
homemade sourdough bread delivery from dad
a new dedication to self-care
the calm i feel after teaching yoga
plants all around me
fresh greens from the garden
everyone around me i can learn from
the fierce feminine power i am finding in myself